Part of being human is wanting something. And we all want to be happy, right? We work hard to have those things we desire. It’s alright to have something to aim or covet, it keeps us going. But how much of wanting is healthy and enough?
No one should stop anyone to pursue whatever makes them happy (as long as no harm is done to other people). Though we’re here to remind you that it’s also important to slow down, pause, and appreciate what is in front of you. Because sometimes, we’re so focused on what we want that we overlook what we already have. Remember, the happiness that we seek can be found in the little things.
We have our own measurements of happiness. We all want different things in life. Many people look forward to things they have yet to get or reach. It’s just fine, it’s natural to dream of our ideal future. What’s not is when we get too attached to our desires, that they become more of an obsession rather than a motivation. It’s not really our fault at times, as we may just be feeling that there’s something lacking we want to fulfill. The scary thing is it could corrupt our mind and our attitude until we’re too deep into the rabbit hole.
Before that happens, or if you can already feel it starting to occur, maybe all you need is to take a break and breathe. See the intrinsic values of what you have, that means appreciating them for what they are, not by what they serve you. Then you’d see that you already have a lot of beautiful things.
There are actually many ways to see life’s worth. Here are some of our suggestions on how to avoid the trap of too much desire for what we don’t have by focusing on what we already have.
Learn to acknowledge the people who support you in the best way they can. You’d then realize how fortunate you have to be surrounded by caring relationships, be it friends or family members. Spend some more time with them and relish your fond memories of them. Thank them for having your back when you are in need. Show your gratitude through a simple chat, or bake them a cake or have coffee with them.
This does not necessarily mean you need to abandon your modern way of living. But maybe it’s time to hit the brake on your spending spree for things that only give you temporary joy. Items you don’t exactly need. This short-term pleasure we get when we buy new stuff is so addictive that in order to experience it again, we would just force ourselves to buy some more. Discipline yourself to resist the temptation, we could even save our money. It’s hard at first, but it’d be worth it in the longer run. The best things in life are free, dear.
One of the reasons that we feel we want more is that we see other people have more. And we feel bad that we don’t have what they have, and we desire to have what we lack. This is especially common now with social media amplifying our insecurities. The best thing to do is trying to change your mindset and stop being hard on yourself. It’s difficult, but please know that it takes time. Keep in mind that we are all different, and not one life is perfect. Your definition of happiness should not be measured by what other people have; it should start from within. Give yourself some credit and list down your positive traits. You’ll then even develop self-confidence, a very nice trait to have in general.
One of the most fulfilling experiences in life is to help other people. Join a charitable institution, find a worthy organization you want to donate to, be part of a cause or movement. There are endless ways to reach out to other people. No help is too big or small, charity is indeed an intrinsic value if you can see it for itself. Trust us that the joy you’d feel from giving is irreplaceable. It is a reward on its own. As we’ve said, the best things in life are free.
These are just a few of the long, long list of items to do to appreciate the present and how to live in the moment. It’s okay to want something, but be sure our heads are not so wrapped in it that we forget to see what is in front of us. That we can also find joy if we could only stop looking hard and just enjoy the view. The intrinsic values of what we have today may be hard to see at first, but it’s not impossible to get. What makes you happy, maybe it’s the little things.
Here’s a thought: every moment is fleeting. What are you gonna do about it?
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