In airplanes, they ask you to put your mask first before helping others. It’s a known human instinct to put other people’s safety first. It was rooted in the ancient times when all we wanted is not to get booted out of the tribe. Until now, we have adapted the same mindset. It’s good in one way but in another, it’s like draining ourselves the energy that we need to help even more people.
As we continue to realize the effects of the latter, self-love is now being considered one of the norms. You can see a lot of bloggers, vloggers, coaches and the likes talk more about it. You can hear self-love tips from different people. Even high-caliber individuals prioritize self-love these days.
Although we cannot really forgo the things that we’re used to, i.e. working hard and staying late. Now, more than ever, we have a clearer picture of how we can achieve the things that we want and be successful while maintaining our sanity. This brings me to my question.
According to Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, it is the proper regard for and attention to one's own happiness or well-being.
If that definition is not good enough for you to love yourself first, here are more reasons why you should.
Who is the person you’ll spend most of your life with? It’s you! You are there for yourself from the beginning. You learned things along the way. You met people along the way. Some may have left you but you stayed. You will always stay.
If you gave love and importance to those people, why won’t you do it for you? It is your responsibility to love yourself first. It is imperative that you do. You have to feed yourself good food, exercise your body, think happy thoughts and do all things that would maximize your well-being. If you feel under the weather, it is your responsibility to rest. Think about it this way, if you won’t take care of yourself, nobody will.
One of the main reasons why we think that self-love is unnecessary is because we think it’s selfish. We think that other people will ridicule us if we do it. We were born and raised to work until we’re too old so we can provide to ourselves and our families. Hey, we are still doing that. We’re not stopping completely. We’re just taking a pause. It does not mean being selfish.
You see, the demands of work and life can sometimes be too much. It can drain our energy and motivation. We cannot maximize our potential if we’re too tired and unmotivated. We’re just human beings. We need to recharge and refuel. Even machines do that too. If you want to maintain your sanity and keep doing your best every time, you have to love and prioritize yourself first.
I admit, I am a workaholic. I always have lots of things on my plate. Sometimes, I feel like I’m doing too much. There are times when I feel too stressed. When it happens, I notice how my mood changes drastically. I get angry, I lose motivation and I lose creativity. It goes on and on to a downward spiral. Let’s just say, I lose myself every time.
But when I loved and prioritized myself first, it was literally life-changing. I had more motivation. I felt like my spirit was renewed and I had a bigger purpose in this world. I felt happier, I performed better at work, I made more friends and lastly, I gained a lot of positive thoughts. It was amazing.
I became a better person by simply loving myself more. When people started to notice, they became their best too. When my coworkers saw how I’m treating myself and others and when they saw the difference that it made in my overall life and work performance, they wanted to do the same. Thus, they replicated what I did. And guess what, it worked for them too.
Loving yourself first is important. Contrary to popular opinion, it creates a better version of ourselves who’s able to do more of the things that could benefit our society. As we slowly move on to the new millennium, let’s all say goodbye to that guilt feeling of putting ourselves first. It doesn’t make us less; it amplifies. It makes us more of the person we want to become.