The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware has been an eye-opener for me. I began reading this book last year at the start of the pandemic, yes! The time when all seemed uncertain. What it did was to really help me put things into perspective. As I start another year in my life’s journey, I gather all the lessons it brings along.
The uncertainty of Covid-19 last year has brought me to wonder this- What If Today Was My Last”? As I look back at the progress that I have made thus far, I realized that despite how I feel or how old I am; I still have not lived my best life. I am turning 46 years old this month and I can’t really say that I have lived and experienced it all.
I grew up with my grandparents in Haiti while my parents were living in the States. They were strict, and very conservative; well they were Christians. There are many things I could not do and places I could not go too. So that triggered my curiosity. I remember the day I told my mom that I was moving into my own place, I could see she was not too happy about that. She instead felt guilty and thought she was the reason I was leaving. That helped me realize that I had to move and start learning and have a better perspective about life. Unlike the American way of raising children, I was raised differently and with a lot of restrictions. Part of which is not being able to choose my own path.
Life is not linear, to my parents it seemed like it. I had to conform to this linear path for a long time. One thing I learned is this, the best way to live life is by living curiously and freely. I tried my best and that meant sacrificing some things along the way.
I have always dreamt of being a lawyer. The idea of defending people and helping them get the justice they deserve makes my heart flutter. I was and still is in love with that dream.
I am not a lawyer or maybe not yet. Life is quite full of surprises. Whether or not I’ll continue chasing that dream is still on the rocks. Well, not until I read that book.
Something sparked in my soul. I felt like that little fire in me started to rekindle. I found another sense of purpose, a more meaningful one.
By reading The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, I came to a realization that we are all the same. Some of us are stuck doing things we’re not so passionate about. Some of us are working multiple jobs or too many hours. All of us crave so much more.
We all know that we have so much potential. We have a lot of dreams waiting to be accomplished. But we are scared. I am SCARED. And If today is the last day of my life, I don’t want to be. I want to have the courage to live life in my own terms.
Fear was the main reason why I was not able to live up to my full potential. I was afraid to be hurt or judged. But above all, I was afraid to fail.
If today is the last day of my life, I’ll do the following.
Yes, I may not have the best circumstances but I still got to live an awesome life. I am an educator. I am a coach. I have helped people improve their lives through my coaching services. By being a Confidence Coach, I was able to break the barrier between dreams and people. I am not be the lawyer I wished to become but I made an impact. That alone made me fortunate. And for that, I am thankful.
I will call my family and friends. They were the backbone of my personality. They shaped me to be the person that I am right now. They inspired all my core beliefs and values. They gave me shoulders to cry on. They gave me advice when I needed them. They are my angels on Earth. I will tell them how much I love and value them. I will thank them for everything they did for me, good or bad.
I love being outside and connected to nature. It makes me grounded. I want to spend today doing just that. I will drive to a place I’ve never been before. I will walk barefoot feeling the ground beneath me. I will listen to the wonderful noise of nature. I will smell the fresh air, if possible. I will connect to my inner self. I will be present. I will be happy.
Work consumed most of my life. I work a lot of hours. Most of these hours were dedicated to my passion. However, I was not really able to say yes to me. Sometimes, I forget about my general health because I care more about others. As a Coach, I prioritize my clients so much. I want them to be the best they can be.
On another note, I could serve them better if I care for myself more. I would not put so much pressure to myself and rest when necessary. I’d show myself more love so I can reflect it to them.
Life is not linear but because of my family’s influence, I subconsciously thought the same. I unknowingly lived my life under the conformities of society when I could have done it based on my goals and dreams.
Failure has different meanings for different people. These were the things I’ve failed at. These were the things I was scared of. If today is the last day of my life, I’ll make it my best. What if today is the last day of your life? What would you do?